“An Uncommon Woman in Uncommon Times” – The Proverbs 31 Woman – Ladies Bible Study Day 14
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23. Her husband is respected at the city gate,
where he takes his seat among the elders of the land.
The Lord commands husbands to love their wives because He knows that this speaks to our inner most being, we have an overwhelming desire to be loved. On the other side, the Lord commands us as wives to respect our husbands. This speaks to his inner most being, his desire to be respected surpasses that of his desire to be loved even. In his mind, respect is love.
Ephesians 5 versus 22 through 33 speaks plainly as to the husband and wife relationship in regards to love, submission and respect. Submission means that we defer to our husband’s headship in the household just as we all submit to Christ and His headship of the church. Submission does not mean that we are a footstool to be trampled upon, it just means that when important decisions are to be made and there is a difference of opinion, we allow the weight to be on his shoulders.
Read Ephesians 5:33 and fill in the blanks: “However, each one of you also must _________ his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must ____________ her husband.”
Remember the curse? In Genesis 3:16 God told Eve that not only would He greatly increase her pains in childbearing, but also that her desire would be for her husband, and that he would rule over her. What God meant by desire was that she would desire to rule over him and be his master not desire him in a sexual way.
Deferring to our husbands can most definitely keep peace in the household. This is much better than constant bickering and arguing, always trying to force our ways and doing our best not to allow him to lead. We are called to live as peaceably as we possibly can. As the Apostle Paul stated in Romans 12:18, “If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone.”
Read Hebrews 12:14 and fill in the blanks: “Make __________ ___________ to live in __________ with all men and to be _________; without holiness no one will ________ the Lord.”
A loving, respectful wife has the power in her hands to create in her husband the need and want to be a better man. To speak well of him in the presence of others, to lift him up, to be his help-mate, be interested in his interests. We are his cheerleader!
A man with a wife who has his back can conquer the world. He wants to be the hero God created him to be in her life. He will seek to do well in his work place, in the church and with his family. His character builds as he strives to meet his goals and thus builds the respect he so desires.
Proverbs 12:4 says: “A wife of noble character is her husband’s crown, but a disgraceful wife is like decay to his bones.”
The man that realizes that his wife is of noble character, that she loves him and only desires to do him good, he knows that he has been blessed by God. He then in turn loves his wife, as Christ loves the church, and would give up his life for her.
How much more blessed can we be?
Personal Question: How do I make sure that my husband is respected “at the city gates” as much as depends on me? ______________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________