“An Uncommon Woman in Uncommon Times” – The Proverbs 31 Woman – Ladies Bible Study Day 3
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12. She brings him good, not harm, all the days of her life.
There are so many ways that we can bring harm to our husbands and many times we do not even realize it. Our words can have the greatest impact on him in regards to his reputation in the church
and in the town in which he lives, his relationship with his children, and with his co-workers or employees.
When we sit down to the dinner table to eat with our children, do we speak with words of kindness and love or do we tear down, degrading our husbands in the sight of his children? When we meet with our girlfriends and we start to speak about the men in our lives, do we speak well of our man or do we “tell all” in regards to his life actions?
Read Ephesians 4:29 and fill in the blanks: “Do not let any _________________ talk come out of your ____________, but only what is helpful for building others up according to __________ needs, that it may benefit those who ____________.
In considering this verse, I thought of Eve in the garden of Eden. Her very actions brought harm to her husband. She chose to ignore God’s words of instruction not to eat the fruit from the tree in the middle of the garden. She did not consider her ways and the consequences of her actions. She allowed Satan to appeal to her feminine wiles of sight, touch, and the gaining of greater wisdom. The great unknown!
She then gave some to her husband, who was with her and he ate it. Then their eyes were opened and they saw that they were naked and thus sin was introduced into the world. Disobedience to God…..bringing not only harm to her husband, but to the entire human race.
I am not diminishing Adam’s culpability in all of this, he was given the leadership role by the Lord, but failed by allowing his wife her actions. What I am trying to emphasize here is that our husbands many times look to us for our thoughts and advice. We must be very careful that we consider all of our actions in the light of God’s word so that we do not steer our husbands down the wrong path. Either intentionally or unintentionally.
As women, we have the ability also to be nags, to be contentious (sometimes for the wrong reasons) and quarrelsome. Careful thought needs to be given to our mouths. The Lord gave us two eyes to see, two ears to hear, but only one mouth to speak. In James 3 the bible says that no man can tame the tongue. It is a restless evil, full of deadly poison. This tells me that we need to control our thoughts before they become words that can kill a soul. We need to keep a tight rein on our tongues.
Read Proverbs 21:9 and fill in the blanks: “Better to _______ on a corner of the roof than ________ a house with ______________ ________.”
Proverbs 21:19 - “Better to _________ in a __________ than with a _______________ and __________________ wife.”
And Proverbs 22:1 - “A good __________ is more ______________ than great riches; to be _____________ is better than silver and gold.”
One of our jobs as godly wives is to be sure our husbands are esteemed as godly men. That we are their cheerleaders, spurring them on with prayer and encouragement. All the days of our lives!
Sideline Reading: Jeremiah 44 - The influence of the women on the men!
Personal Question: How do I encourage my husband to be the man that God has called him to be in the presence of God, his children, his Christian brothers and sisters and his community?
ר (Resh) 29. “Many women do noble things, but you surpass them all.” I have read this verse many, many times and this is the first time that I ever noticed that this is a quote! The Proverbs 31 woman’s husband’s words! This man sees his wife, he recognizes who she is...
ק (Qof) 28. Her children arise and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praises her: The Lord has given us children to bless our lives and to make us more complete. It doesn’t matter if they are ours biologically, if they are adopted, belong to extended family...